ACCEPTANCE

ACCEPTANCE

Wednesday, October 17

The second step to recovering from anything melodramatic or depressing in your life is to finally accept it. Believe me, I’m not a life coach or psychologist, but I’m a teenager. Just like many of us, we all go through a stage in life which is simply challenging.

It’s about accepting that challenge. Take it into your control. You don’t need to let it control you or consume you. Nothing is a big deal until you believe so. Imagine your challenge is a vitamin pill. Now imagine that it gets stuck in your throat. What do you do?

Let’s state the facts. It’s a pill and it is stuck in your throat. It’s giving you problems by just being placed in your throat. You can either swallow it and relieve yourself or you can spit it back out and not accept it. In turn not swallowing the vitamin will result in you getting weak and disregarding the important essentials that you need. 

There’s a reason why you had to take the vitamins in the first place. Whether it’s to get healthier or to repair your body, these are the exact same reasons we suffer from challenges. We are tested to improve and repair our thinking and affection, in order to have a healthier and positive mindset. This is the reason we come across challenges ; to learn to get better from them. The point here is don’t take the difficult times hard, learn to be better from them and improve yourself. 

If you chose to have a negative mindset then the result would be the same. You can’t get anywhere from not accepting your problems for what they are, otherwise they’ll never get anywhere. They’ll be there draining you everyday. 

So swallow your pill. Take your life into control. And as I always say, stay hydrated loves!

Next post, this Sunday : ‘What college has taught me so far.’

-SOOMS 🖤

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MENTAL HEALTH : COMMUNICATION

MENTAL HEALTH : COMMUNICATION

Thursday, October 11

At the beginning of this post I wanted to dedicate it to mental health within the Asian Community. Although it is largely neglected within the Asian community, mental health also seems to be an issue no matter what ethnicity we're dealing with. (I wanted this post to be one whole message with all the issues suffered, but as I began typing I realised that there were so many and each deserve their own individual post.)

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Society has become so numb to emotions and feelings, where one man cheating is applauded for his shameful acts, where calling someone 'fat' isn't a compliment unless it's stigmatised with being 'thick'.

Regardless of these issues, we all overlook mental health, until we suffer from poor mental health so bad, we become numb. We pick up on slight changes in tone in someone's voice, the way they hide through their body language or even changes in their daily routine's.

Let me ask you something. The minute you break your phone screen, what do you do? You get it repaired, or you wait and eventually you get it repaired. When you break your arm, you go to the A&E and get it repaired. The pain won't go away, your bones will not heal immediately, but eventually our arm is repaired. Your arm heals. You heal.

Mental health is somewhat like that I guess.  If anything in the world can heal, so can you.
The most cliche line, if you have not heard it by now is 'You're not alone.' You probably expect me to disagree with this by now, but it's true. It may feel like you are, it may feel like your thoughts are eating you alive and the bad keeps you up at night. Rather it's what you want yourself to believe. You want to be alone because you feel comfort in keeping your problems to yourself. You feel secure.

The best way to start to heal yourself is to find that one person you can share your thoughts to. Mine wasn't my best friend, neither was it any of my friends in fact and it wasn't my parents at all. Rather it was my school teacher. She healed my heart with every smile she had when I came to see her. No matter what my issue was, she promised she'd be there, and she was. She made me feel happy whenever I was with her, and when I left her, I still felt that same 'happy'. Doesn't mean if someone is your friend you have to tell them everything or rely upon them. Sometimes, someone who knows nothing about you, seems to heal everything within you.

Eventually I opened up to my friends. With time and patience, they understood. It wasn't about trust, it was about communication. If I didn't feel comfortable they all understood to leave me alone. They knew when to give me space. Communicating how you feel is so important, and I urge you to do it.

For Monday's Post, I'll be covering 'Acceptance.'

Stay hydrated beautiful x

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